Throwing the bride's bouquet to one or two people?

We're in the process of planning our wedding and reception. And I just realized that there are going to be very few single females. Most of our friends and relatives are married. I can only think of 1 - 3 single ladies who might come.





The odds would be good for them catching the bouquet, but they'd probably feel bad if they all missed - lol.





Does it seem logical to make up something else where I can have all the ladies come up - regardless of marital status? Or have both even if the traditional toss only has one person trying to catch the bouquet?

Throwing the bride's bouquet to one or two people?
When my friend got married, she had a very small wedding. What she decided to do was dedicate her bouquet to me, I helped her plan her wedding. She stood up and thanked me for my help and support, it was a very touching moment and 10 yrs later i still have it!


When I got married, my father in-law passed away the year before, so I took my bouquet to his grave after the ceremony, making him part of our day.
Reply:You may just want to not do it. Personally, I'd feel very uncomfortable being the only or just the other person trying to catch it. Of course, I've never been one to jump up %26amp; take part it that part of weddings I've been to, I've never enjoyed it so I usually avoided it. You may also take that into consideration, not all of the single women, if there are just a couple even, may want to sit it out.
Reply:We opted for a bouquet toss and we also gave a vase of a beautiful bouquet of flowers to the couple there that had been married the longest. You could just do the latter option if the majority of couples are married or you could do both to honor married and single people. I thought it was a great idea given to me by my DJ because most married couples are left out at weddings. It's your wedding and if you try to please everyone, it'll make you insane!
Reply:To be honest, I think the bouquet toss is somewhat out of date and kind of embarassing. I suppose it's fun when you're a young bride and you've got all your singleton galpals willing to scurry out and scramble for a bunch of flowers, but if most of your friends are either married or attached, the ones who are still single and available probably don't want to feel like they're getting picked out of a crowd. The tradition loses its meaning of "you'll be the next to get married" and ends up being "you're the one who didn't have a plus-one!" I've been to weddings where the bride opts out of throwing the bouquet, and no one even noticed. If you feel like you really want to throw the bouquet to a crowd, announce that it's for a new tradition -- happiness and good fortune to whoever catches it. Encourage everyone to step out onto the floor to catch such a lovely wish for luck.
Reply:forget tradition have the dj announce that you would like all the ladies single or not the married ladies wont mind it's a nice keepsake to have
Reply:How about not having it at all? It will just embarrass the single ladies.
Reply:You could toss the bouquet to all the ladies and if a married lady catches it the garter would go to her husband instead of being tossed and then he could put it on her with the count being for many more years of happy marriage. The men miss out on the toss but I don't think they care so much about things like that.
Reply:Most people HATE the bouquet toss, in my experience. I always felt like a jerk going up for that....save them the humiliation and cut that part out altogether. Really, this poor one single woman in teh entire room would have to stand up there all by herself knowing she's the one and only single woman in teh entire room? I'm sorry, that would be horrible for her, most likely.
Reply:I don't think they will all miss. And if they do the winner is the one that gets it off of the floor first.





Call me a traditionalist, but I really don't see a reason to do anything other than the traditional bouquet toss. If you don't want to do it then just forgo it. You don't need to throw anything out.
Reply:How about presenting it to say your grandmother, or your oldest relative instead, as a "keepsake" so to speak.
Reply:My situation is similar so here are three options that we are thinking about:





1. have a dance and the DJ asks couples who have been married 1 year to sit down, then 5, 10, 15, etc. Keep going until the couple who has been married longest is left and give them the boquet in honor of their succesful commitment and let them know you hope you two can be like them.





2. make several small bunches of flowers (like 2 or three per bunch). tie them togehter with a ribbon and attach a fortune to each one like a chinese cookie. "you will travel to an exotic location", "you will be kissed under the stars" etc. Have all the ladies stand just like they would if they were all single. Hold the bunches like you would a normal boquet and when you toss it they will all seperate and several ladies will each catch one. If you want to take it even further you can have one of the boquets have something special like a green dot on the ribbon and whoever catches that one gets a door prize like a pretty candle set or something.





3. Instead of the "you'll get married next" just have it be a good luck boquet. hold in your hand a bunch of ribbons and have one actually tied to the boquet. The ladies all group around you and pick a ribbon end. They pull and the lady who picks the ribbon attached to the boquet gets it. keeps the flowers from bieng destroyed and people injured (o.0)
Reply:If they all miss, throw it again until one of them catches it. When my brother got married, there were 4 of us single at the time. When I got married, there were just a few that were single. I had to throw it again, but someone caught it. The old wivestale about the one to catch the bouquet is just that....a wivestale. The one who caught mine wasn't the next to get married. Her younger sister was.
Reply:I would say do a toss to ALL the ladies. I'm sure the few single ladies would be embarrassed by being singled out. Get all the ladies involved. Who knows? Maybe the married ladies are jealous that they're no longer eligible for the toss. It would be fun.
Reply:Instead of the bouquet toss you can have all the married couples dance and see which couple has been married the longest and give the bouquet or some other gift to that couple. So the dj would say if you have been married for 2 years sit down, 5 years sit down, etc...Hope this helps.
Reply:Choose one person to receive it from you that is a special person within both/one of your lives. At my wedding I knew there would be few girls willing to go up so I gave mine to one person. I called her up explained a little why I chose her and then did the whole spin and toss to her and only her. Everyone loved it and she felt so honored to receive it from me.