If your engaged are you "allowed" to try to caught the bouquet?

I am going to a wedding this weekend and I wasn't planning on standing up for the bouquet toss but the bride has mention several times to me- she hopes I caught it. So are you suppose to go up to caught if your are engaged. I am asking because I was at once wedding where the girl was engaged and caught it and people were pissed about it. Maybe they were just an angry single crowd of woman? LOL


What do you think?

If your engaged are you "allowed" to try to caught the bouquet?
Personally I see no problem with it. You arent married yet!


However, you will be the one to deal with the lonely mob of angry single women....





Its like the time I caught the boquet when I was 11 years old... Everyone insisted I stand and try to catch it (I didnt want to).. It litterally fell ON me, then they all got pissed off. Very mature.
Reply:YOU ARE ALREADY PLANNING TO MARRY... THIS IS FOR SINGLE UNENGAGED WOMEN......


I WOULD SAY NO
Reply:Personally, I HATE this tradition. If you aren't married, you're single so you could participate if you want. The question is...Do you want to participate? Is your fiance going to be at the wedding with you? What if he doesn'st catch the garter? Now he has to sit there and watch as another man touches his bride to be's leg? Bride should not be offended if you don't get up there. It's a dumb tradition anyway. I say DON'T. The answer to your question though is, yes you are allowed.
Reply:Technically, the way I understand it--ALL single women gather for the tossing of the bouquet. When I got married, my maid of honor was getting married in 4 weeks--so I looked over my shoulder and made sure she caught it...LOL Everyone had a laugh about it--since they knew she was the next one getting married anyway.





The wedding you mention sounds like a bunch of angry single women to me....LOL I mean, it's a silly tradition--I don't think ANYONE puts any stock in the whole notion of whoever catches the bouquet is going to be the next to marry....what some people will choose to get their panties all in a wad over never ceases to amaze me...LOL
Reply:You're still single! Go for it. And I hate the angry masses of single women, but especially the little girls whose moms allow them up there.....


I caught the bouquet at my sister's wedding, and I WAS the next to get married in the family!
Reply:The rules are completely up to the bride! I like this suggestions best... http://www.brides.com/weddingstyle/tradi...





I like the part where they suggest the "marrieds-only dance" where the last couple standing gets the bouqet. I think that a long lasting marriage sould be honored at a wedding. It's better than making single women feel like they are less worthy and need to snatch a husband.
Reply:Hmm. Good question Bubbles! :) Honestly, my understanding has always been that the bouquet toss is for single women to see who gets engaged/married next. So, I would say "No. If you are already engaged, you are not supposed to participate".





However, having said that, one of my closest friends dragged me into the bouquet toss at her wedding. At the time I was in a long term relationship but no wedding date in sight...she wanted me to try to catch the bouquet so hopefully I would be the next one married, according to tradition.





~Shrug~ If the bride was asking you to participate, in that case I say go for it. If the other girls had a problem with it, they need to get over it. The bride is the one who asked.
Reply:It is for un-married girls but how will you fiance feel when the man who cathces the garder is putting it on your leg???
Reply:If you have a ring and a wedding date set, would you consider yourself single and available?


If you don't have a ring and haven't set a date, you're not engaged, you're still single.
Reply:I think that it is for all un-married girls.
Reply:I didn't think you were supposed to cuz I the tradition is whoever catches it is the next to get married, but considerin your already gettin married, I don't see the point....but when I was engaged, I went to several weddings and I got pushed out there every time...I just stood in the back...lol! At mine, I was aiming for a single friend of mine who had been dating her man off and on (way more on!) for nearly 12 years, and my 9 year old cousin caught it...bummer, but oh well! And she actually got engaged I think 8 days after anyway! :)
Reply:Yes of course... Catching the bouquet supposedly means that you're next in line to get married. What the bride's telling you is that she thinks you should be next in line! :)
Reply:if you're engaged, you're single. Go up there.
Reply:It all depends on how the bride feels. I think that the boquet is for unmarried women so you are unmarried (even if you are engaged) I've been in a relationship for 3 years and always get dragged up to the boquet toss, so i would ask the bride what she thinks and it sounds like she wants you up there (and it is HER day afterall) so go for it!!!!
Reply:I would sit that one out...you are engaged so technically you aren't single.
Reply:Yes, you should go and try to catch the bouquet. I caught the bouquet at my aunt's wedding a month before I got married and the girl that caught the bouquet at my wedding already had her wedding date for a month after my wedding. yeah, you should definetely try to catch the bouquet.
Reply:I'd say yes its okay...because its for UN-MARRIED gals.
Reply:Yes it is okay. I'm engaged to be married in Nov 2007 and i caught one at my aunt's wedding this past march. To me its a sign that our marriage it was meant to be!!!
Reply:YA FOR SURE YOU CAN IM ENGAGED AND I CAUGHT THE BOUQUET AT MY FRIENDS WEDDING IN MAY. IF YOUR NOT MARRIED YOUR STILL SINGLE I HOPE YOU CATCH GOOD LUCK
Reply:I'd say it's fine if you go for it. Supposedly the person who catches the bouquet will be the next to get married, right? So there's no reason you shouldn't join in. By the way, try using the word "catch" instead of "caught" for all tenses.
Reply:YES!